I write lists. I write grocery lists only to get to the store without them. I write lists of ideas for blogs only to stare at them blankly each week when it’s time to write and think none of them sound inspiring. I used to write lists of things I was just about to do so I could mark them off. I thought I was unique in this, only to find out later that lots of people do this. (Kind of like finding out when you were younger that you weren’t the only one who thought the sweet and salty flavor of bacon dipped in syrup was the highlight of breakfast).
I also used to write New Year’s Resolution lists. They would be long and lofty, filled with the typical items that would have the cumulative effect of making me the single best, most healthy, financially secure person on the planet. Like most of my other attempts at lists, this one failed miserably.
I no longer make New Year’s Resolution lists. The annual failure was just too much. But I have something much better now. I have one resolution and it’s the same each year, month, week, day. My friend Christina and I came up with it a few years ago and it’s two simple words that make a resolution anyone can keep - Mostly Better.
Mostly Better means just what it says. Mostly. Better. Not Always Better. Not More Perfect. Just aiming to be Mostly Better with some” lessers” and “worstes” and complete failures also. When Christina and I will be talking about something we’re working on (health, fitness, money, relationships), if one of us gets too critical of ourselves, the other will remind her that all we’re aiming for is Mostly Better.
And it’s easy to turn this one around and not have to wait for a milestone change like a year or a month. Didn’t eat healthy for breakfast this morning? Just try make the rest of the day Mostly Better. Didn’t handle a parenting issue like your ideal image of a mom? Just be Mostly Better in your next interactions with your family. Spent too much at Christmas? Just be Mostly Better with your budget.
Mostly Better leaves room for both accountability and grace. Yes, I let myself or someone else down, but no, I didn’t break the last New Years Resolution I had intact and feel like I failed for the year. I can acknowledge my failings, but still allow myself room to try again.
So this year, consider skipping the list that never fails to disappoint and try Mostly Better instead. Let’s start a New Year’s Revolution and refuse to torture ourselves or set ourselves up for failure. With Mostly Better, you, Christina and I will all succeed!
Happy New Year!
P.S. I’ve developed my first Digital Download for you. (I’ve gotten Mostly Better at tech this year!) It’s a printable Mostly Better worksheet for you to set some intentions for yourself with action steps to make 2019 the Mostly Betterest year you can. Just click on the Download tab at the top of the homepage.
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